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Joy Lane could have been Karen Smith…..

I remember being on social media and seeing horrible things being said about Joy Lane the week the whole “Facebook Killer” story came out.

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Joy Lane and Steve Stephens

She was the girlfriend of Steve Stephens who went and killed innocent grandfather Robert Godwin for no reason. He then went on Facebook and blamed it on Joy.

Joy Lane’s Story

That man was troubled to say the least.

But what was even more troubling was the comments and hashtags that were being created about Joy – as if this whole situation was HER fault and as if she had any control over what that man was going to do.

I couldn’t believe it.

Then a couple weeks later (or was it before) there was the story about Karen Smith whose life was taken by her husband Cedric Anderson at her place of employment where a 9yr old student’s life was also taken.

Karen Smith’s Story

Was this Karen’s fault?

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Karen Smith and estranged husband Cedric Anderson

Its easier to say no right? But when you look back at Joy Lane’s story and what happened to her, how and why is there even a question whether that situation was by anyway her fault? 

Joy could have easily been Karen. 

Last week I sat down and I just thought about how it must feel to be Joy Lane.

She had the courage to step away from a bad situation which could have easily led to her own demise and then have to go through the trauma of a murder being blamed solely on her by her own aggressor. That has to be heavy. 

We will never know how she feels deep down inside and how much weight Robert Godwin’s death had to weigh on her personally. So why did we pass judgement?

What I know, is that there is only one JUDGE and both Robert and Stephen are about to meet him.

Point. Blank. Period.

I pray for all families. 


#Pulse Shooting and #Alligator Attacks

As more and more information begins to come out about the Pulse Shooting Massacre in Orlando the more and more distraught I become. About everything. All together.

This situation was a mix of so many issues. Homophobia, Islamophobia, Gun Control Laws, Trump, Hatred we as humans have for each other and the ignorance that society allows for so many of us.

As like with many tragedies, what this incident did create that was wonderful to see was a sense of unity in all of our communities! I saw that it gave us a power to stand up for the LGBT community like never before.

I don’t care how much people don’t agree with the lifestyles the LGBT community decide to pursue- we were reminded that they are human just like every one of us.  They are people with families as well that will Loved and Missed.


Just imagine about how many people are affected by this shooting just by being friends and family of the victims. Not to include the people like me who mourn just by knowledge of the incident from the heart. This is a real national crisis. 50 people gone? In one night? That ish is crazy to me……

Here one day and gone the other…

Seems like that is how life works.

Can work.

Has been working.

THEN this morning I hear about a little boy that was grabbed by an alligator at a Disney Park resort yesterday. (And of course everybody has some opinion— Blaming the parents, blaming the park, blaming the alligators, blaming the signs put up and not put up.)

Why are we always filled with the need to blame someone? How about we blame NO ONE?There will not always be someone to blame…. THIS. IS. LIFE.

Story on USA Today

If I haven’t learned anything from all of this, I have learned ONE thing:

life unpredictable

All of these recent stories and tragedies are reminding us – and  I will say it once again- You can be here one day and Gone the other………..

 What is my point?

We got to get ish straight! For me, I have GOTS to live a prosperous, beautiful, and most importantly a HAPPY life!

I will not judge, I will not pass opinion without using empathy, and I will continue to love my neighbor. …………..(Even if my neighbor is  a meanie with no life.)

To their dismay, I exist and I am here until the day I am not. Nan, Nan Boo Boo!