Joy Lane could have been Karen Smith…..

I remember being on social media and seeing horrible things being said about Joy Lane the week the whole “Facebook Killer” story came out.

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Joy Lane and Steve Stephens

She was the girlfriend of Steve Stephens who went and killed innocent grandfather Robert Godwin for no reason. He then went on Facebook and blamed it on Joy.

Joy Lane’s Story

That man was troubled to say the least.

But what was even more troubling was the comments and hashtags that were being created about Joy – as if this whole situation was HER fault and as if she had any control over what that man was going to do.

I couldn’t believe it.

Then a couple weeks later (or was it before) there was the story about Karen Smith whose life was taken by her husband Cedric Anderson at her place of employment where a 9yr old student’s life was also taken.

Karen Smith’s Story

Was this Karen’s fault?

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Karen Smith and estranged husband Cedric Anderson

Its easier to say no right? But when you look back at Joy Lane’s story and what happened to her, how and why is there even a question whether that situation was by anyway her fault? 

Joy could have easily been Karen. 

Last week I sat down and I just thought about how it must feel to be Joy Lane.

She had the courage to step away from a bad situation which could have easily led to her own demise and then have to go through the trauma of a murder being blamed solely on her by her own aggressor. That has to be heavy. 

We will never know how she feels deep down inside and how much weight Robert Godwin’s death had to weigh on her personally. So why did we pass judgement?

What I know, is that there is only one JUDGE and both Robert and Stephen are about to meet him.

Point. Blank. Period.

I pray for all families. 


Xavier Omar- The Everlasting Wave

OMG where was I when this came out?

‘Blind Man’ was a single that I knew of actually. But I had never listened to Xavier’s full album. I did today and it was the bomb. The bomb diggity to be exact.

I fell in love.


His voice is so fresh and swaggy.  Not to mention he is putting the respect of women as a topic in his tracks and you gotta love that!  His Sound is also so diverse. Its not the typical R&B sound we hear all the time. He is definitely tight. (P.S. I love men that can really sing and have memorable voices and Xavier Omar is one of them!

Here’s what I thought about the songs!! 

Special Eyes- So cool. So neat. So sweet. It feels so good. Hmm…..

Grown Woman- I feel like I am in a dream. Somewhere with bright lights. Swaying. Dancing with the man of my dreams. While he sings this to me….Then we kiss at the end.

If This Is Love- This song feels so deep to me. Idk. Like “your man putting you in your place”  feel good.

Do Not Disturb- More of the turn up song on the album.

Poision- Amen for this song!

90s Babies are the Best Babies

Yeah I said it!

“If you were not born in the 90’s, then you missed being born in the best years.”

48 Reasons why 90’s Babies Had The Best Childhoods

We are blessed.

I say this because we got to experience both parts of the “World” as we know it today.

This includes: The world before technology took over, and the world we know today controlled by technology.

The world before technology was the days kids played outside. The days where you really had to “communicate” with people in order to build relationships. The days with encyclopedias. The days the library use to be popping (or was it just me). The good ole days.

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Bet yall dont remember this? 

The world after technology is super savvy and super neat. The days where your nieces and nephews know more about an iPad then you do. The days where cars drive themselves. The days of online dating. A sneak peak of the future….and I must admit it is bright.

Us 90’s babies got best of both worlds.

We are well balanced and Equally yoked. 

We can appreciate somethings because we actually grew up without everything.

Since we also grew up in the technology age we also know how important and just how darn cool it is to be connected and the spectacular things technology can do.

But we are Balanced. And that is what matters.


Shoulder Roll……



College were the Best Years

I just realized why college were my “Best Years”. 

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It was because in college I was able to be an “Adult” but I didn’t have any of the real “Adult” responsibilities. 

Don’t get me wrong, It was definitely a learning experience.

But this real deal “Adult” thing I am going through now?

Nah…..It aint nothing like this.

So yeah, College was definitely some of the most enjoying years. But I am even more excited to see what will come out of this “Real World experience I am going thorough…”

Guess we will see……

1 Corinthians: Chapter 12

In this chapter the Bible talked about how WE as a people, are ONE function and compared us to the parts of the body as they operate as one function too.

1 Cort. 12:12- “The human body has many parts, but the many parts make up one whole body. So it is with the body of Christ.”

Basically: Everyone has a role, and everyone has their own purpose.

No 1 purpose is better than the other, and no 1 function can operate fully without the other.

 We need each other, and each of our special roles in order to operate as a whole. 

God Said: We are all beautiful and we are all special!

Once I read that I told myself:

Self, Be who you are meant to be. Everyone has different talents all for different reasons. I CAN-NOT worry about what the next person is doing or how they are doing it or why.

I gots’ to worry about myself.

I need to figure out what I do BEST and how I can use that talent to please God and stay up in his GRACE.

Gotta be special!